Insecurity and seeking external validation destroys relationships and leads to the dark side.
Personal independent realistic confidence with oneself helps with having better relationships.
Manipulate yourself only, by this I mean exercising emotional control when expressing certain things.
Don’t manipulate others.
Don’t let yourself be manipulated by others.
If you gotta manipulate people your doing it wrong.
But people manipulate people all the time.
So your best defense against manipulation is internal self belief.
Your best tool for determining authenticity is by being authentic yourself. That is how you filter.
Getting through a breakup?
You both deserve better…
Hope that helps
Testing people comes from insecurity….if you feel that you need to constantly test someone you’ve already lost the relationship.
If you are in a relationship to validate your self esteem or self image you are doing it wrong.
And don’t make things into new problems by weighing both the negative and positive perspectives on circumstances. If you are unsure of what something signals and don’t know how to interpret it….being delusional isn’t good nor is always taking it things negatively…I don’t have an answer for this scenario but maybe further hone your ability to read people.
But don’t go looking for certain problems so much that you inadvertently wind up inventing them.
Don’t play social defense…all the time…got to have social offense sometimes.
Theory only gets you so far gotta have content
The content is your life
Overthinking it.
If they really like you they will break their own rules…
If nothing you do works or if nothing about you is it, then they don’t like you…save your energy move on….and be your best self.
Personal excellence.
Be a protector and provider…
And cock rock.
Be comfortable in your masculinity. Fragile masculinity is a turn off.
All your exes are not narcissists….
If you bring out the same reaction in people then you got to fix it and do things different in order to be treated better.
Don’t be a people pleaser….instead set boundaries.