Programmed beauty standards…
Thicc and fat same thing
I’m not discriminating…lol
But health is important.
Women don’t want power. Besides a healthy relationship isn’t built upon power. It’s built upon connection, intimacy, empathy, resilience, taking care of yourself, but simultaneously being responsible to one another.
A man is supposed to lead and be a strong foundation in the family unit but a woman also shares the same responsibility as a man and should be competent enough to carry on if the man is incapacitated.
The issue with me too and the gender war and masculinity v feminism.
Is that people forget to practice social responsibility towards each other. And that some men are ill equipped to handle difficult life situations
Meaning men don’t wield their power responsibly and some aren’t effective leaders.
Most women don’t do shrekking..meaning they don’t date someone below or equal to their perceived social status.
So yeah.
Being nice is usually seen as a front or as weakness.
Being a bad boy helps short term but long run isn’t sustainable.
How to be…
Authentically be the embodiment of those Chuck Norris memes.
Every man has some kind of chuck Norris within them.
Unleash your inner Chuck Norris.
Is part of it.
The other part is being unselfish and caring for each other. But that sort of relationship is built and earned.
You Have to be of worthy character in addition to being highly competent at a variety of things for someone to invest that sort of trust and want to build a family with…
Having game is playing socially.
Some need game.
Some don’t.
Disney romance and red pill hypergamy are both myths…for rtards…that cannot fully comprehend reality.
Women naturally live off drama and controversy.
So do men…but in different fashions with territorial pissing contests.
But there are some exceptions…for some exhibit different traits on the spectrum.
Men and women are both sexual beings.
But women only express their desires around men they feel safe around or are worthy…if otherwise they have a variety of defense mechanisms out of necessity…because men are more physically imposing or because some men don’t meet their standards or interest.
That being said all people deserve to be treated with dignity respect and have the right to self determination in a relationship.
Being too jealous is results in controlling behavior
Not being jealous enough will look like indifference.
Some of the extremes of unhealthy jealously.
Healthy jealously is you recognizing your partner disrespecting your relationship and being able to properly address that disrespect.
Unhealthy jealously is also expressed by passive aggressive pettiness. Which if a person displays an egregious amount of such behavior and makes no effort to change for the better…maybe consider that you both aren’t that compatible.
Relationships between man and woman require love, respect, trust, and empathy to exist in order for a relationship to last long term.
Love isn’t scientific.
As far being sexually attractive to another gender…it’s not a one size fits all…cultivate your uniqueness and strive for personal excellence.
Expressing desire and being respectful of another’s boundaries and consent, so that you don’t transgress….
Is also a paradox and not universally the same. Different people want different things.
However when on the dating apps…..
People (men and women) don’t want no scrubs.
Some will use you for sex and for resources to better their own life situation. Gotta spot those users.
And don’t let jealous haters turn you against people that are a blessing in your life.
Self esteem confidence…
Being liked social perceptions are subjective.
People hype themselves up over bullshit and have higher self esteem than those who have actually accomplished something and did something with their lives.
Take away confidence is a switch.
Nervousness and anxiety and awkwardness. Continuous exposure and reps is the only thing that overcomes such.
Having High self belief is key.
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aight heres the rub guys; the biggest green flag for me in a date is to feel safe and paid attention to, and i feel extra special when they make me feel like a lady.
think about how nice it feels/would feel for a woman to make you feel like a man right now? it works in the inverse. ya holding doors open is cute, if he does it casually, like he owns the place- but if he opens the door, turns to me full breast, bows and goes “m’lady” ill dry up faster than the sahara
its the vibe. some guys never give me a chance to speak. some guys mention their exes constantly. some guys never ask questions, or volley with me. some guys throw pity parties “i cant believe youd be into a guy like me”. its all vibes dude
like theres no silver bullet. dating apps are stacked in girls like mines favor. thats the sad reality. however, if you really look at some of the other guys profiles- youll see just how impossible and cringe they are- and that shits gotta get sifted through, at least until the adhd kicks in. meeting ppl in traditional ways is very difficult, especially post covid- just try your best not to take rejection or ghosting personal or let it get you down. i ghost. its literally by accident- life tends to happen, and DMs get jumbled into the mix of chaos. we’re only human
learn whats cringe and dont do that, be yourself and lead with your interests and life goals
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Yeah, once you get past the awkward introductions, it’s really about seeing if you get along or not. Take sex out of the equation, just think of it as trying to see if you’d like to hang out with this person again. Once I approached first dates that way, I got a lot more second dates.
And, if you go in with that mindset, then a first date where you don’t get along isn’t so bad either. Just try to take the stakes out of the situation and be yourself. I was pleasantly surprised at the kind of women who were interested in me once that happened. And bonus, the dates were actually fun.
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Every woman I’ve dated have been hardcore feminists and HATE that shit lol.
I get enough of that during my daily work week to want to deal with it on my off time. I can’t imagine going on a terrible date. I no longer have the patience for it in the slightest, so more props to all y’all. I’d rather just meet somebody casually.
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Thank you really appreciate the perspective.
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of course!!! 
@Vlantis correct never take sex out of the equation
also so to keep on topic so like i actually dated someone off this forum years ago. ill never spill the beans to who. but when you say meet casually, it definitely happens in the strangest places lol
ahh fuck it EDIT so like if anyone remembers me (wulfsok) i was a fuckin weirdo. probably my sole redeeming quality was out of fuckin nowhere i started pissing out banger dnb. crazy shit ensued in my life and despite all that i met my wife in a snowstorm. crazy shit. now we’ve been together 10 years and are a power couple. i mean fuck before i met her i was disastrously alone. i was posting on this forum when i got mugged by peckerwoods and got my teeth busted up. cops would stop and frisk me thinking i was on drugs. and its not like i didnt have any baggage from my childhood. posting here with yall kept me from going crazy
but there was still someone out there who saw something and fell for me. got my teeth fixed up, grew tits, became a pornstar and bought a house. we are happy
life is pretty fuckin wild but its fun as hell too, so if anyone out there needs to read this: dont give up
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Wulfsok! I remember you!!! Ha! That’s fuckin’ great. Welcome back.
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This made me laugh. Captain Obvious strikes again!
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I wonder when the nerds = smarts idea will die off. 
Relationships
Love them as the real person that they are. Like their soul and stuff.
Plus personal excellence, excellence of character.
For their identity is not an expression of anothers desires and abstract fantasies.
In other words…
They are a person.
Not a fulfillment of an ass fetish.