Need a thick woman in my life.
Lol.
I started freezing up around people because I can’t think of anything to bullshit and banter about.
My conversations in real life are dry as fuck.
Also I think that I don’t have a good reputation amongst women which doesn’t help.
I gotta stop performing and people pleasing.
Thank you relic.
I have the book too never got around to reading it though.
This is poetry, right here. Beats, “Men are from mars” or whatever people used to say
Dating pools
Got no direction, no ambition, play too much video games, watch a bunch of online courses through social media on how to be a man…
Smoke all day and just revel in other addictions.
Have nothing better to do than to engage in illegal shenanigans and thereby no good future.
Or are on the receiving end of people with fucked up ideas about relationships being an expression of kinks and deviancey.
No responsibilities, don’t do anything for yourself or for others.
Got no skills nor are productive
Haven’t accomplished anything other than being a culture geek..
Too quiet or too reserved or just plain making people feel awkward and people label you as socially awkward.
Suck at Reading the room thereby being looked down upon as being functionally retarded
Let people walk all over you as a person
Yet an overbearing blowhard bullshit artist
Negative self image, intermittent pavlovian reinforcement in relationships..
Life experiences read like a pathetic pity party
Jealously is insecurity about inadequacy or it’s an alarm that another is disrespecting a relationship.
People will go out of their way to sabotage you to see you fail.
Why would anyone be with someone that is going nowhere.
Do you give a shit or do you just want a conquest.
Heat of the moment which is fickle as the wind that ever changes…
Clash of egos where people just using each other to engage in their own selfish desire.
Men and women players having a bad reputation as users and getting butthurt from facing accountability for their playerdom.
Hypocritical narcissists like everyone can’t be narcissistic it’s moreso both a reflection of your weakness and peoples own character for not respecting your boundaries or personhood.
Not really independent and rely too much on others.
Barking up the wrong tree mistaking fake love for real interest.
No sense of self and looking for purpose and meaning through consistent adrenaline rushes and good vibes.
Boss Rick Ross…
Bully pulpit…
Ghosting because dry af.
Don’t have the wealth of elon musk.
Shallow insecure vanities.
Red flag clingy self absorbed masochist psycho
Call everyone on the bullshit to salvage their little ego.
Biggus dicks maximus
99th wave masculinity feminism gender war of relative ethics exposing the hypocrisy to rewrite social order…is just nonsensical.
Self induced pain masochism.
They don’t want healing don’t save them they can’t be saved.
Relationship leases sugar daddy scams gold diggers man babies and mommy girlfriends.
Brand management and niche social marketing for dating is fucking dumb.
Demographic type artificial pairing
No one owes you any social entitlement.
A summary of bullshit that I’ve come across
Ugh
Got too many excuses.
Grow a pair and do something.
Or let life pass you by.
This one. Don’t let your dreams be dreams - just do it.
Dating is so damn discriminatory.
But everyone does it.
And there adequate reason for it.
The reason people don’t know how to love each other in a healthy manner.
Usually it’s on a spectrum of:
People don’t know how to/are not able to love their own self and are very mistakenly looking for a magical being to fix or save them
——————————————————all the way to————————————————>
People are incapable of the selflessness and work required to build and maintain lasting love.
Add to that the fact that most people change/grow quite a bit throughout their lifetime (because of what aging does to the body & mind), on top of life being a raging asshole plotting your demise every day, and one’s own path may end up diverging from that of the person you are/were with at the beginning of your common journey, for reasons you did not see coming.
I feel like I’m marketing myself and are being interviewed and evaluated…for like a job.
It feels so inauthentic artificial and ridiculous.
I don’t have the expendable income for these dating apps and to be going out…
Fml
Being in the city…
Going out,…
It’s like this one already has a Boyfriend, or that’s one of my friends ex, or getting rejected and being giving bullshit excuses, or don’t get involved with her because she’s linked to criminals, or other people that will fuck you up, if the relationship goes sour and she decides to get revenge, or this one will suck your life dry and lead you down a path of degeneracy, or just flat out will be a bad relationship investment, etc…
Definitely agree there. Also, most people are thinking about what they can get out of a relationship rather than what they can give to it in order for it to thrive, and coming at it from a one-sided angle can really put a damper on things, leading more to codependency instead of interdependence.
I think @White_Noise made a great point a while back (that I will likely bastardize accidentally) that everything we do as humans ultimately comes from a place of personal gain rather than true altruism (which I agree with), so when people mention selfishness as the main negative in the former scenario, sometimes it’s worth it to consider the upsides of our own selfishness as humans and how we can attenuate it for everyone’s benefit.
You know, when your emotional LFO is working a little too hard, you just have to scale it back with an attenuverter 
Plus cock blocks, people starting trouble….has several different baby daddies….etc…
I give a lot of credit to people trying to date in today’s world, at least in our country. I’ve heard a lot about how it has changed over the years and, honestly, I’d never be able to do it. It seems like the corporatization has bled into other aspects of life where it just doesn’t gel with human emotional needs, and everything becomes some kind of interview process to see if you’re a likely candidate.
Pretty ridiculous, honestly.
Yep. Hence:
The above encompasses “people are way too selfish”.
(sorry for quoting myself)
^I don’t like people that much, and I agree that people only do things that make themselves feel good, but I there are times when I tell my handful of friends that I wouldn’t be keeping in contact with them if I didn’t like them. Not related to dating, but whatever lol.
I had a heavy conversation with my old girlfriend over the weekend. It was good. It happens from time to time.
Just choose this one, thank me later.
It is, and that sucks. I caught myself doing it here and there, and tried to keep an open mind. But Hinge also did keep trying to match me with women who were basically clones of my mom. Just basic white christian school teachers, and I’m sorry but I live with one of those already and I would not like to be romantically involved with another.
So I think if you have some understanding of what you want/need from a partner then some amount of discrimination is necessary. It might feel unfair, especially if you’re the one being discriminated against. But the net result is you are not going to waste time with someone who you already have a strong feeling isn’t the right fit for you. Is it a bit superficial sometimes? Yes. But I like to think the discriminating I did came from a deeper place where, for instance, an overweight woman would not be a good fit for me because I work out twice a day and my health/fitness is very important to me. Superficial? Yes, but also someone who isn’t in at least average to good shape is probably not going to be compatible with me in terms of hobbies/interests because my physical fitness/health is very important to me. I don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t at least understand that, if not share in it themselves.
LOL internet dating is a gem. I had a chick set up a date herself, after I told her my schedule, she ghosted me. I sent her this yesterday, I did at least really use it too.
In my 20s I’d make up stories and tell them how they missed out on the best first date ever, then tell them how’d they have to walk up to my booby trapped lawn to my door, we’d go in my high security armored van that had turret guns and laser sharks and other tech to fightvoff intruders blah blah. Then we’d put on skates in the van and have Laser parties while roller jousting to the death, just shit blurb out my head onto them 
I was afraid I’d be this person for a long time, part of why I waited to start until later on. I still catch myself trying to mold M into my idea of what she should be sometimes. And I get it a relationship will change us both, but I shouldn’t be going out of my way to change someone I supposedly like. I see things about myself changing here and there for her and that’s fine by me.
I’d say dating is kind of gamified right now, and like it or not you have to know how to play the game to be able to put yourself in front of people and get on their radar. I think that part is more difficult than ever, but if you can get past it people are still people at the end of the day. I was very so-so at playing the games needed to get attention, but I started to get there after a few months of practice.
NGL, I am thankful that I am conventionally handsome and 6 foot 4, that definitely made things easier. And I get that not everyone is as lucky as I am in that regard. But just having the confidence (or not giving a fuck how embarrassed you might end up) to introduce yourself to someone and be honest with them is what everyone has to figure out. If you can get there, you still have a shot.
I don’t think I’ve ever been on a date. Sounds like I dodged a bullet to hear you guys talk about it.
