I don’t do the dating thing anymore. I flirt with some single friends on occasion for fun, but dating sucks. My friends pool is small: old married couples, youngish people yearning to leave town, etc. I’m past my prime and over relationship drama.
I understand that it’s very nice to sleep next to a warm body, but you can always just buy a sex toy…
The last time I was in love was four years ago. It was fun. Caught the feels last winter for a bit, but the feeling wasn’t mutual, which is fine since the reality isn’t as fun as the fantasy.
Just get a sex toy and some lube and play some EDM to porn.
Much better week sticking to the verified dating sites this week. Have matched with a few people, had some light conversation but it’s not going anywhere. Just going to chalk that up to me not knowing what I’m doing. Got to study how/when to take things deeper (harhar yes thats wut she said).
I’m not hung up on the idea of sex (though it would be a nice bonus), I’m viewing this more as an opportunity to rebuild my social network with some romantic intent. I didn’t keep touch with most of my friends from highschool, and I didn’t make new ones in college. Or at work after college. So I kinda just don’t have people to hang out and do stuff with now. So I’m trying to change that, and if it leads to something more then I’m OK with that.
One of them is more attractive because of their appearance and personality, and the other is attractive because of their intelligence and level-headedness (though the difference between both of them is only slight…)
And both of them want to room share an apartment with me (and each other.) At this point I really can’t tell if it’s just friendship or if there’s some sort of weird love triangle going on here, and it’s even harder to understand when everybody is flirting in a different love language, too… @w@
I’m not opposed to the idea of polyamory but I don’t feel right being AMAB and having two AFAB friends being suggestive… I’m not that type of person. And to top it all off, I’m kind of stuck in this limbo of not being able to advance without hurting either’s feelings. Forget about the fact that I won’t be able to talk to either on a regular basis for quite a while…
Maybe I’m taking this the complete wrong way, but I’ve been single for long enough to feel lonely, and I’m really sick of it.
Don’t get me wrong, I love having time to myself and I’m mostly independent, but I NEED a partner because I’m a touch starved twat with attention issues
I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that having common needs really isn’t a weakness. I genuinely think some people just do better in a relationship setting than others, and there’s a strong difference between codependency and interdependence, even though they can oscillate sometimes.
Also I just realized that I only spent one year of my adult life single and it fucking sucked. I’m sure that also means I’ve got some kind of problem, but it also makes me never take what I have for granted
Ive been in 3 relationships, and only one of them was good. After that sweet experience it’s super hard being single. It’a like an addiction… I might come across as a cringe edgy teen, but love is a powerful thing. I hope things in the future turn out well for every nice person’s dating life…
I’m the opposite, I’ve been single all my life. A few dates back in highschool that didn’t go anywhere for various reasons, and that’s it for me. I prioritized my career, health, school, music, etc. I always kind of thought if I just did my thing and did it well, people would notice and want to be a part of that.
Nope. Not how it works, at least not with my ability to read social cues. So I realized I have to get more decisive and open about my desires. No one is going to just step into my life, not the life I’ve been leading anyways.
Not to sound too detached, but I’m genuinely curious to see how I do in a relationship. Like, I have been able to accomplish a lot in my life single. I hope to pairing me up with someone like-minded gives us the opportunity to help each other out and accomplish even more together. Fuck, I could own a 16-voice Moog One instead of the 8! (totally kidding, not my relationship goal).
I agree, bfk is awesome (the opposite of boring, of course!), and if boring people never got laid there would be a hell of a lot less humans on the planet.
But, you know. People say things and it gets to your head. We’ve all been there; just remember that it’s bullshit
My dating app has figured out that I have a type, and I’m talking with half a dozen of them now, in varying levels of actually responding to each other regularly. I’m not going to summarize that too deeply other than to say it’s probably good practice to have a few irons in the fire at a time because they have lives too, and are liable to find someone else or get busy or for whatever reason quit responding to you. And when that happens, you have to understand that they don’t owe you anything and you need to get over it and move on.
So with lesson one out of the way, I am starting to get dates out of these chats too. I was supposed to meet one last weekend, but she had something come up last minute and has gotten busy (with work) ever since then. I really liked her until this and I don’t want to write her off, but I probably should. It’s awesome when we do get to talk, but she just goes radio silent and doesn’t communicate for days at a time.
She stands in stark contrast to another woman I met before, turned down for a date because I thought it was too soon, singlehandedly kept me engaged with her for an extra week until I was ready to see her, and then surprised me with a really good time when we met up. It was just a lunch over the weekend, nothing happened and I wouldn’t expect it to. But lesson learned - don’t just judge someone by their profile because I almost passed on her based on that. As I get to know her more, there’s more here than meets the eye. I don’t think she’s Mrs. Right, but it’s fun spending time with her and I could do that again.
Actually, weird thing happened after our date, I came home and basically passed the hell out. I was wiped. That doesn’t usually happen to me, but I guess being an introvert, going out and meeting strangers is really draining or something? I’m curious to see if that keeps happening or not.
