To strike up a conversation…and cold approach…
Use Cold reading…the technique that fake psychics use to scam people…to start conversations.
And after that just be genuine and dont shoot yourself in the foot.
Love isnt a myth…
Just gotta level up and be like batman with supermans powers
Level up. Really.
It gets easier when you level up.
Do all the side quests to get experience points and max out all your stats so when you do the boss fights on a level it will be so easy.
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I need to stop looking at internet social media stuff…
Best advice ive found is build your own life…and the people that want to be there will find you.
How do you build your own life…go out and do stuff.
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Complaining about the way things are only demonstrates your own inadequacy…so level up.
Dry spell…not complaining just enjoying the drama free me time.
And also just chilling.
Online dating…
Honestly sex and the internet is a crapshoot.
Cause scammers ask help from other scammers to help scam people…
Also if you have a certain reputation on the street…for being average expect to get scammed and taken advantage of.
Solution level up.
Just use your judgement and respond appropriately…
Also in my going out escapades be able to read people, to avoid certain situations like getting into fights with dudes over a girl…or making an accidental advance which can cause the other person to lose their shit and cause a scene
Find out whose of good character and who isnt…
Just Be wary and be smart
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Whomever said love is blind…
Probably invented beer goggles.
Something ive noticed.
Complaining about the dating scene is shooting yourself in the foot…
Like complaining about modern women and modern man…
Do yourself a favor and just dont…
A better option is to spend your energy on doing stuff…
As opposed to complaining all the time and trying to figure out why your energy spent manifesting your best life isnt working…lol.
I’m not going to complain about the dating scene, but I did make the mistake of looking up dating sites the other day. Thinking about making a profile once things settle down a bit at work in a few weeks, but holy hell IDK where to start.
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Be your best self…
But dont solely rely on apps…use them as like an extra resource…
Also your not talking to just one person…theyll screenshot your conversations and talk about it…
Comes with le territory.
Yeah, I figure it will be a start. I’ve just been out of the game for a long time, I don’t have people around to introduce me to people and I don’t get out (except for work, which is not the place I want to practice meeting people). I figure I’ll use sites/apps to practice conversation and such, then be ready if I do meet someone in my day to day life.
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Found out friend of mine has a female stalker…that is trying to fabricate some bullshit that he has mental health issues and is trying to isolate him by insisting to others that he is undateable…
- The guy does community service and does community projects to help communities.
- He spends his own time doing charity work.
- The stalker is a selfish idiot that hasnt gotten laid in several years.
When the woman is the victim it is harder for the woman to defend herself…because of biology…and the stuff that some men do to women is inexcusable. Those men should be held accountable for their actions.
But when the man is the victim its usually from social/political fabrications by the perpetrator…
Im not gonna get all mens rights nonsense…nor 9th wave feminist misandry trying to reinvent gender roles.
But seriously, Wtf is wrong with people also why is there an uptick in both men and women exhibiting broken behaviors…its fucking retarded.
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I was in a physical/emotional abusive relationship for 3 years… I could have left that woman at anytime. honestly… I’m kind of a moron letting his dick steer the boat-- for real, the sex was really good. like really good. pro-tip if it’s not obvious: that is not a reason to stick around. easier said than done, though. we love who we love.
by all means, don’t deny the power of explosive sexual energy you can achieve with someone who you definitely, definitely should never ever date. sure, you can fuck that toxic person (toxic for each other at least) all you want… but know when to acknowledge the red flags, don’t ignore those. the gut rationality should overrule the penis, but the penis is just louder. those intuitions… they are telling you not to get emotionally involved with that person. get involved with their orifices but for god’s sake, don’t catch a feel.
we live and we learn though. i did not grow up with the privilege of having a regular older male mentor around at least not one who could give me life advice other han how to worship Jesus. a male who could at least be an older brother of sorts. I know this is cliche but the 90s were a different time. so much different now. there was less than 1% of the information and channels of communication, so freely and widely available, for a kid who was basically raised in a cult, homeschooled till 9 years old, the only connection to the outside world was weekly trips to the public library. I was not prepared for the real world at all. I knew I was too smart for my own good – while at the same time somehow a complete fucking knob – and when I tried to ask my dad questions, or express that I hated myself, somehow the answer would always come back to “trusting god” or “loving jesus”. I dunno my dad has some kind of complex that makes him inept at discussing anything about sexual romance.** He’s still like that. It really messed me and my siblings up. Hooray for therapy!
My whole life up until wikipedia was deemed "70% accurate has been a collective of experiences where I shoot from the hip, throw every choice at the wall to see what sticks (aka “HOW DO I LIFE?!”), and I became a person who didn’t know how to say no and also was never really taught to emotionally defend himself (actually tack “physically” on to that too). I love my dad and forgive him and have a good relationship now, but goddamn I wish he could of at least said something along the lines of “if she [or he] makes you feel like a piece of garbage, you should leave them”, I might have saved myself a bit of grief. Whatever, hindsight 20/20, I know my pops realizes that now too. We are men. Even when we try our best, we still fuck shit up somehow.
anyway…
the cycle of abuse is real y’all. I know a lot of men who have been, and are still, in relationships with abusive women. sometimes it isn’t the case that the abuser is a narcissist or a horrible person, it can be purely clashing personalities. some people just should not try to be together as a romantic unit.
yeah, I’m a pretty big strong guy, if I wanted to I could have easily crushed her. instead I let her use me as her literal punching bag. the people who raise us cis-males don’t really give us an instruction manual on how to deal with a unstable female wailing on you, be it with her fists or her words.
I can say that my Id, Ego, and SuperEgo were figuratively beaten to a pulp by that woman. to the point stopped making music & art (“You’re a shitty ass musician, you’re a joke, your music sucks, you should quit”), I became a “functional” substance abuser and addict. I fell into the deepest despair about six years ago before I moved to New Orleans and it almost destroyed me completely. Literally I nearly died many times. it took me years to not feel so small, took so much work to glue all my broken pieces together to be back to feeling a little bit more like myself again. honestly, i’m still processing that trauma, there’s so much. PTSD is a bitch.
even though we are physically stronger and using it to hurt others out of narcissism is inexcusable, I can say there is justification in using that strength to defend yourself.
what I mean is: I know this will make people cringe a little but, I don’t care what gender you are, if you punch me in the face, i’ll fuckin break your nose.
that said, I am working through this pain and anger with a professional, and straightening my violent and vengeful tendencies. I also fully forgive my ex partner and I also know that she is very aware of her actions and has been working on herself while we were together and also ever since we parted ways. fuck, I won’t lie though, I am getting angry thinking about that period of my life though. what a waste of fucking time. i did learn a lot. great. lol.
I have spent a lot of my life trying to control this volcano of rage inside me, and channeling it down healthy expressive avenues is the best, but I’ve gotta say, despite all my rage i’m still just a rat in a cage.
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Im not doing that thing where i say its my friend but really im talking about myself…
It is really a friend of mine…
I do have a few friends…
Anyways…
I got feedback i need to talk more about the right things…instead of politics all the damn time.
I dunno if ur talking to me but in no way was i implying otherwise…
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