Things that piss you off the most

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1009

I wish I was this sensible when I was your age. Seriously! All of these things I had to learn over a longer period of time after mistakenly allowing myself to be walked on over and over and over.

I now consider my blunt honesty to be one of my better traits. When my friends have trouble speaking their mind but they’ve had it up to here with whatever that someone else is doing, oh don’t worry… I’ll tell them exactly what they are doing wrong for you. Free of charge. I don’t enjoy being confrontational, but what I don’t enjoy is wasting my life/time walking around letting people shit on me or people I care about. A lot of the time they are oblivious to their words/actions and all they need is to be reoriented. “stop doing this/being like this, or you’re fkin fired from my circle, homie.” Yeah I have no problem removing the diseased limb if it’s killing the rest of the tree.

And once I’m let out of the cage, the person acting the fool certainly won’t enjoy that conversation.

Look, I expect people to do the same for me. TELL ME how I hurt feelings or ruffled feathers or I was rude, that what I said was fucked up, that my actions made one question their friendship with me. Fuckin say it! I do not respond to passive aggression or beating around the bush because I ain’t got time to translate your emotional shit, brotha. When people don’t tell me that something I did or said made them feel wronged and they carry it around resenting me for, seriously, sometimes YEARS… dude I am not a telepath, I’ve got enough going on in my own brain, you’re wasting both our time by cloaking that shit from me and letting ME continue acting the fool. That’s on you, coño.

My closest friends are 100% honest with me and they have no problem being brutally honest with me that I’m fuckin up or full of shit or I’m being an asshole. I highly value directness and honesty in my retionships.

So on the other end of all that… at 40 years old and watching friends wither away/die/lose connection with me, I am learning how to communicate my honesty in a way that is both direct & effective but doesn’t intentionally cut the person down or insult them, hurt them. Because I mean, some of y’all here have seen it, I can be a real fuckin cunt sometimes. I would like to try and nurture my friendships and relationships with people. I have burned a lot of bridges by having zero restraint and while I spoke my mind, I did it in a very unnecessarily hurtful way.

Some people deserve my wrath though.

Damn I’m ranty today. J’en ai assez dit.

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1010

2025 has been the most ass year of my life.

Lost another close person.

Others decided to take something close to me, debated if prison was worth it for a while, still fighting with myself daily on wrecking some shit or pushing forward.

last week a motherfucker at work baited me into a conversation and recorded it, lmao. Good thing my work likes me so HR will have my back (I think). This dude has had a few less than normal interactions with others.

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1011

Why do people do this? Is it for clout? Is it because of a deep unresolved hate..?

I actually watched a video a while ago of a content creator who was… Essentially reverse-groomed. (That is, they were sorta manipulated into appearing to have the intentions of a groomer.) I’ve been accursed of being a pedophile by people only seeking to cause harm and I don’t get it… If it’s for cheap laughs and dopamine then that’s pretty sad they need happiness that desperately…

1012

It’s a fine line. Don’t walk on eggshells around people, but don’t be an asshole.

This thread is a reminder of why I don’t like people lol.

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1013

I think at the root of people like that is a jealousy more than anything. They can’t leave you alone and do their own thing, or work on themselves. They must bring you down to their level where they can feel superior without having to change anything.

An age-old saying is “don’t feed the trolls” (well, decades-old). But just don’t bother engaging with these people. They are IRL trolls, and I’m sure they’re trolls online too. If you keep trying to have any relationship to them, they will use everything you say, do, and “imply” against you. Only by minimizing contact can you reduce the damage they cause you.

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1014

This has been a lifelong challenge for me. being forward is easy, but getting my point across (confrontation) without it being in a way that cuts someone down is what i am (always) learning to filter better. I have shown progress, but the active-aggressor pops up his little demonic head sometimes.

also wtf do I know, and who made me the lifeguard of life? tweet tweet stfu wayne, u only know what u know, which is not much.

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1015

Fid keep on keepin on, start making moves for your future..and more importantly the future of your family.

Keep hustlin and put in the work.

:grin::100:.

1016

When I was a kid and shared my opinion, people say “You’re a kid. You’re too young to have an opinion.” And then when I was a teen and expressed my opinion, people say “You’re a minor. You’re too young to have an opinion. Only adults can have opinions.” And now I turned into an adult and people say “You’re only a young adult, you’re too young to have an opinion.”

So when am I “old enough” to have opinions? Lol.

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1017

Yeah, I absolutely don’t get this.

I think there is a line where minors shouldn’t be able to contribute just because of lack of knowledge, but a lot of people really forget how intelligent and logical some teens especially can be. I’m not an adult yet, but I’ve spent most of my life talking to them and actually understand the adult world. Anybody who tries to say “shut up kid” gets a big mouthful from me.

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1018

Yeah. The amount of times I’ve had opinions rejected both online and in real life just for being a teenager back then is weird. People who reject opinions just because of the person’s age are like karens (no offense to actual good people named Karen)

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1019

Don’t forget the Kyles as well!

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1020

Yep

(And what’s the gender neutral version?)

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1021

Non-Kareny. Kyx, maybe..?

Haha, I feel like I should know, as a non-binary person.

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1022

Sooner or later you’ll hit an age where literally everything you say or do has a sudden amount of tremendous weight behind it. Then you have to curb some of your shittier tendencies because they hit other people way harder than they used to. It goes from black to white very quickly, so don’t say nobody warned you :wink:

Also, enjoy not having your opinions stick like glue or not having to eat your words while you still can, you whippersnapper, you :smiley:

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1023

I’m going to assume you’re not looking for answers and just want to vent (which is totally fine, I think most of us have been in your position asking the same question), so I’m just going to leave you with this quote from Confucius’s great Book of Rites, which goes:

“Opinions are like buttholes - everyone has one and nobody wants to hear it.”

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1024

Amount of Life experience = the consideration of your words by others.

Unfortunately

This is the world…

Are you an 18 year old billionare.

Have you served in the military

Are you running your own business.

Have you done anything for your community.

How popular are you.

What are you working towards.

Have you achieved your goals.

The world doesnt give much consideration to how you feel. It only takes into consideration how you conduct yourself and what you do.

That the way it is no disrespect.

1025

Your opinions matter from the age of 30-39.

40 and up you are now old out of touch. :upside_down_face:

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1026

Lol that’s how it feels these days

1027

Kayden?

(Apparently that’s a gender neutral name)

1028

Kayden is not gender neutral :sob:

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